Traditions Change

Like most families we have traditions during this holiday season. My husband and I have been married for almost 17 years. When we started out we made a lot of our own traditions. One thing we have done is get a real tree every year. Some years were smaller some bigger, but each year we all pile in the car and pick out a tree. My husband puts up the lights and I hand the decorations to the kids and they decorate the tree. This worked well for many years. I have never been one to be overly fussy about how it looks. Our decorations are a hodge podge of stuff I have collected over the years. Some of them are handmade gifts some I have made myself. In the end it is always festive. Now with only one 14 year old boy at home, tree decorating is just not as fun for me. My husband does the lights and we all jump in and help get the decorations done, however the fun is not there anymore. 

I committed a sin. I asked for a fake tree. My husband always had a fake tree growing up and it has been a big deal to him that we have a real one. Now with almost no help I am left to take the whole thing down myself. The boys in my life said they would help and so we will get a real tree this year. Honestly if they have strong opinions about it then so be it. However I do think if I am lugging a real tree down stairs and cleaning it up by myself next year we will have a new tradition.

I guess as kids get older and leave home things change. This is the first year it has hit me that I only have one left. So with a sniffle and a tear I have to hope that this is the final time for the real tree, and next year I can put up a pre lit seven footer in 10 minutes. Maybe then I will get my joy back for decorating it.

That said I know the first year I have the fake tree I will be sad, and miss all the family memories when we decorated the tree as a family. 

Christmas 2003


Posted By
Heather Garcia